Healthy relationships are not perfect. Disagreements and conflict are a normal part of any relationship. What matters is how you communicate, show respect and navigate challenges together.
While many relationships will be positive and supportive, it is also important to recognise when a relationship may be unhealthy or abusive and know where to seek support.
Romantic relationships
Healthy relationships are built on respect, trust, communication and understanding. Disagreements happen in all relationships, but everyone should feel safe, valued and able to express themselves.
Self-help resources
- Relate – toolkits, counselling and therapy to help build better relationships.
- Relationships Matter – tools and help to better understand relationships.
- NHS Inform – Healthy Relationships – guidance on starting or maintaining health relationships.
- TED Talk - The difference between healthy and unhealthy love – Katie Hood explains five signs to help identify unhealthy relationships.
Abusive relationships
A relationship may be abusive if someone:
- Tries to control who you see or speak to
- Frequently criticises or belittles you
- Makes you feel afraid of their reactions
- Pressures you into doing things you do not want to do
- Ignores your boundaries or needs
If you are in an abusive relationship with a partner, ex-partner, family member or friend, find support and guidance on domestic abuse.
Support
- Victim Support: Recognising Domestic Abuse
- IDAS Domestic Abuse Support
- University of Leeds Harassment and Misconduct Team – support is available if you have experienced harassment, sexual misconduct, stalking, bullying, coercive or controlling behaviour, either on or off campus
Family relationships
Family relationships can be a source of support, but they can also be complicated. Moving to university may bring challenges such as homesickness, family conflict or managing difficult relationships from a distance.
Self-help resources
- Navigating Difficult Family Relationships (Family Action).
- ‘Adult children of emotionally immature parents’, Lindsay Gibson